Be the first to say "friends" - let her know that you are looking forward to making a friend if nothing else... this lets her know you have no expectations and aren't needy or desperate.

1. Remember that YOU are qualifying HER to see if she is someone you want to spend more time with... and not the other way around.

2. Too many dinners and gifts early on will lead you into 'the friendship zone'. Impress her with YOURSELF instead.

3. E-mail her first to build familiarity. Call her on the phone to set up the date after she e-mails you back.

4. On the phone, joke that SHE might turn out to be weird. This subtlety lets her know that YOU are normal and fun.

5. Have her meet you at your place so you don't end up waiting around... and so she will be coming back to your place afterwards.

6. Use 'The Flake Test' - Ask her what the chances are that she won't show to set the tone up front.

7. Be the first to say "friends" - let her know that you are looking forward to making a friend if nothing else... this lets her know you have no expectations and aren't needy or desperate. Mention this during the date!

8. Show her that you aren't overly interested by heading to the coffee shop quickly instead of lingering around at your place.

9. At the coffee shop, RELAX and treat her like your best friend. Lean back, talk about INTERESTING topics like drama, violence, scandal, or comedy, and make cocky/funny jokes. You can save the compliments for another time.

10. If you want to spend more time with her, go someplace where the conversation is built-in, like a place with fun shops and things to do. Wander away from her a few times to communicate that you aren't 'needy' or clingy.