Bars and Clubs DVDs helps change my approach to women
Hi Dave,
I just received your "bars & clubs" DVD package and I thought even the first half hour was
insightful.
As far as promoters go , I met one (which seems to be a one off thing) who was promoting a
contest to see who could come up with the best techno mix on their Ipod , the winner was
in the draw to win $100 , I seem to appeal to him because I was being friendly & chatty.
As far as building relationships with the doorman, etc goes I feel that I have to repair a
tarnished reputation, well some of them I think are intimidated by me because I'm a fairly
big guy and they don't want to have to deal with me if I do get drunk (which I don't),
this city is the place to go if you want to get SOME action , they have become very strict
with the serving of alchohol to curb drunkeness & violence , a guy left after they started
serving him water (after 2 beers), but I did behave recklessly last year even when I was
straight.
My approach to women was all wrong (I was grabbing them around the waist) , it worked
sometimes, but it would freak a majority of women out and they'd complain to the security
guards , that's something I've been trying to live down.
I think I have actually got a fairly high level of self confidence but my self esteem
hasn't been congruent with that and I've been working on that, well since I've been
watching the "approaching women" DVD's and listening to the "interviews with dating gurus"
CD's then going out and applying some of the techniques the way I view myself has changed
, it's mainly due to the fact women (particularly the barmaids) view me in a different
light, like I met one on Friday night who liked me because I was being myself, she loved
the fact I said "thank you" to her.
When she served me the next night, her eyeballs nearly popped out of their sockets, so I
didn't go back to her till later on that night and she responded in a friendly way, she
actually started playing a little game with me when I handed her the money for a beer, she
was playing another game with me the night before too, I think it was because I conveyed
my personality in front of her when talking to this guy.
What I'm finding is when I'm neutral and I am using "no style" , women are VERY responsive
to that, what I've also learnt on the bars & clubs DVD's is that I'm not alone when it
comes to bar game and becomimg more "self aware" of how & why I feel the way I do after
being away from the bar scene for months ,that different distractions were causing my
anxiety (NOT WOMEN), I'm starting to get the DJ's & one of the band members look at me
(they have a very high status in the club),what I've also noticed is I've been getting the
thumbs up from the bartenders and the weekend before I got a wink from one of the
barmaids.
I think it was because I conveyed some of my personality in front of her too, by giving a
guy a handshake whereas I was acting all cold & disinterested before I got back into
things.
I think personality can make it or break it with a woman, I've read in an E-book that a
good looking guy with no personality to a woman is just like a fat & ugly woman is to a
guy, so I think these women find me to be an attractive guy because of my personality.
I put it down to using some of Tyler & Seans methods.
I better get going or I'll be here all night.
Regards
Russell,
Australia
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