“How To Stop Paying For Dates”

By David DeAngelo

Let's talk about a 3 basic things I believe about how things work when it comes to women and dating…

1.  A woman intuitively know when she is being “pursued”. And as soon as she knows she has something you want, her price starts to go up. It's Economics 101.

2.  When her price starts going up - translation: she realizes you like her - she starts playing hard to get… and YOU start to LOSE CONTROL.

3.  Once you lose control, you must respond by either by pursuing her harder - -- which gives her even MORE control - or by giving up altogether. And neither of these options sounds very good to me.

Of course, the solution is to NEVER GIVE UP CONTROL IN THE FIRST PLACE…

… and NEVER paying for dates is the BEST way to keep control.

It keeps a woman out of what I call the “courting” mode of thinking and behavior. It keeps a woman from thinking she is being “pursued.”

By the way, I'm not opposed to the idea of buying dinner for a woman…

What I'm opposed to is the MINDSET that you put her in by doing it.

But before I tell you what to do instead of paying for dates, let me share what I'm thinking when I first meet an attractive woman.

It usually goes something like this:

“She seems nice, but I can't know for sure until I know her better. I'm willing to invest just the amount of time and money it takes to have a cup of tea with her to find out more.”

Get it?

So take a moment to think of 10 things you could do with a woman that cost little or no money but that include possibilities of all kinds of interesting conversation, adventure, excitement. Then do some of those things - without advertising the fact you're not paying for dates.

I'LL GIVE HER THE JUST THAT MUCH CHANCE TO PROVE TO ME THAT SHE'S MORE THAN JUST A PRETTY FACE…

…without having to pay for a full-blown date.

I never think for a second that I need to buy her dinner so she'll sit and talk to me. No way.

And incidentally, having the attitude that you must pay for a date to make a woman like you is actually VERY UNATTRACTIVE to her. She can smell this kind of attitude and lack of self-worth a mile away.

Bad, bad, bad.

So what should you do instead?

First off, if you ABSOLUTELY CAN'T HELP YOURSELF and you just HAVE to pay for a date, frame it as “I want to go out to this favorite restaurant of mine, and if you'd like to go, too, you're welcome to join me.”

Then if you decide to pay, it can be something you made clear you were doing for YOURSELF and not her.

But a MUCH better idea is to get creative and avoid all things that scream “I'm willing to spend money to get your attention!!!”

Try a walk in the park. Go to an art show. Go window shopping in an interesting part of town. Take her to a party that friends are throwing.

In other words:

DO SOMETHING THAT HAS INTERESTING CONVERSATION AND EXCITEMENT BUILT INTO IT.

Sitting at a dinner table alone with someone you don't know does NOT fit the bill.

So take a moment to think of 10 things you could do with a woman that cost little or no money but that include possibilities of all kinds of interesting conversation, adventure, excitement. Then do some of those things - without advertising the fact you're not paying for dates.

You'll get to have fun without putting her in “courting” mode, and you'll have interesting conversation built right in.

Plus, as an added bonus: You save $$$.

Nice.

What I'm really trying to say here is, don't set up the idea that you're paying for her attention by paying for dates. Just don't do it, because it works against everything I teach about what it takes to get women in the first place…

…and that is SPARKING and BUILDING ATTRACTION.

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